You're NOT Failing: Resetting Your Expectations

You're NOT Failing: Resetting Your Expectations

They say that the downfall of most marriages isn't disagreements about money, lack of communication, differences in religious beliefs or parenting styles but it's unmet expectations. It's these unmet expectations that are the root of all other issues. 
Buuuutttt I have a question for you .....how many expectations are you putting on yourself? 
Just like unmet expectations are the root of unhappiness in a relationship, unmet expectations can be the root of unhappiness with anything in life. 
I was talking to a friend the other day about life. As she shared some frustratations she was having, it reminded me of a conversation I'd had with my husband. He said, "Lainey, who cares if {insert expectations here}. You put all of these uneccessary expectations on yourself and then feel like you've failed if you don't meet them." True story, y'all. 
As my sweet friend and I were talking about it, we had to laugh really hard at ourselves. Because not only is it true that we do it, but because we've set up these expectations for ourselves, we assume everyone else has them about us too. So that if we don't meet them, our husbands, our friends, our family's, will be just as disappointed in us as we are. Y'all. They 👏 don't 👏 care 👏
We aren't perfect. We will never be perfect. Nobody expects us to do X, Y, and Z except ourselves. We have got to give ourselves some grace. 
Sooooooooo........ instead of focusing on X, Y, Z where you aren't meeting your expectations, focus on A, B, C where you're KILLING it- because I promise, there's an area where you are. ♥️♥️♥️

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