One of the things I'm most appreciative of in my business is my ability to help others. I love helping women find clothes that make them feel fabulous- I've talked about it before so I won't talk too much about it here. On the flip side of this, I've been given a platform where I can talk about my life and experiences and help others- which is what I'm going to do today.
As many of my followers know, I've kept the homefires burning through several deployments. Because of this, I get asked on a fairly normal basis what someone can do for their friend/family member whose husband is deployed. Since I've been asked this at least 5 times in the last few weeks I thought it would be a great topic for a blog post.
Personally, when P is gone, I get told all the time to let people know if they can help. While there have been a few times I have picked up the phone and asked (like when there was a prowler outside our new house who appeared to be looking for a spare key- a sweet friend and her husband helped me come change the locks) I normally just figure it out- because I know everyone else has lives. I feel like I should just be able to handle it all and normally I do- but there are some things that would definitely make my life easier.
So number one on my list of things to do is to show up. Show up to her house, invite her over, pick up the phone, whatever you can do to give that woman some adult interaction. Even when I was in school or worked when P was deployed, the adult interaction was lacking. The times I struggled the most were the times I didn't make this a priority.
Number two on my list is to take her dinner. With new apps like UberEats, DoorDash, etc this has become even easier- especially if you live out of town. Meeting a basic need and giving her a night off is GOLDEN. Double points if you show up with dinner, eat it with her while kids play and y'all sip wine. ;)
Number 3 on my list is easier if you live local. But imagine your husband leaves, all of the things he normally takes care of are now on your plate. It can be a lot. One of the most overwhelmingly neglected areas of our household chores becomes our yard. I'm chasing kids so it makes yardwork even harder to do. Normally we end up hiring a service to take care of it- but depending on where we live, services have been hard to find- or they are outrageously expensive. So to pick a day some of your friends can go help would be a huge weight off of her shoulders.
She may say no- she doesn't need help- but show up anyway. I promise she will be grateful. There have been a few times people have been there for me and they still make my eyes slightly misty- even though I told them I didn't need help. <3
Are you a military spouse? What do you think of my top 3 things? Have something to add? Drop it in the comments below!